Finding out you are pregnant is life-changing, and sharing the news with your boyfriend and family may feel difficult.
These conversations are not easy, but preparing ahead can help you approach them more confidently.
Before you share the news, confirm your pregnancy with lab-quality testing and an ultrasound. The Hope Bridge Pregnancy Resource Center offers these services for free so you can understand all your options and receive helpful information.
Be Honest with Both Parties
Honesty is essential when telling your boyfriend and your family about your pregnancy. Even if you’re unsure of your next steps, being open about your pregnancy can help establish trust and create space for support.
You don’t need to have all the answers right away—it’s okay to say you’re still processing or you don’t know what to do next.
Tell Them Separately
It’s often best to talk to your boyfriend and your family separately. Sharing the news one-on-one allows each group to express their thoughts and feelings freely.
If you worry your family could lash out at your boyfriend (especially if they don’t know him well), it’s wise not to have your boyfriend present during that first conversation. This will help keep family conflict with your boyfriend to a minimum and allow you to focus on your conversation.
If your family has a wonderful relationship with your boyfriend, you can tell your family with your boyfriend present. However, make sure you brief your boyfriend on your pregnancy first! It’s important that he knows the situation, and you thoroughly talk about it as a couple.
Give Your Boyfriend Time to Process
Hearing unexpected news can bring strong emotions. Your boyfriend may need time to think after you break the news. Even allowing one night of silence or reflection can make a difference. Resist the urge to push for immediate answers; he may respond more calmly after he has had a chance to process.
Plan for Reactions
Your boyfriend’s and family’s response may vary, from supportive to surprised or even upset.
Choose a time when they aren’t rushed and can focus on the conversation. Think through their possible reactions ahead of time so you can prepare honest responses.
If safety is a concern, consider telling them over the phone, in public, or with a trusted support person present. If you ever feel unsafe, call 911 immediately or reach out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential help.
Moving Forward
Telling your boyfriend and family you are pregnant may feel intimidating, but planning your approach can make these conversations easier. Take time to confirm your pregnancy before you talk with them so that you can get a clear picture of the situation.The Hope Bridge Pregnancy Resource Center is here to support you with free and confidential pregnancy services. Contact us today to schedule an appointment.